Are you
a worrier? I am. Can you teach your kids not to worry? Doubtful. But maybe you
can teach them HOW to worry, so they won’t worry their lives away.
When my
son was small, I found an amazing book called Sam’s
Worries by MaryAnn MacDonald. It’s about a young boy who stays up
worrying at night. He worries about everything from a library book getting lost
to an earthquake at school.
The
only thing that stops Sam from worrying is his Teddy Bear, who promises to stay
up all night worrying for him. It will make you wish for a worrying Teddy
Bear—I know I wanted one after reading this book. Because we all worry, and
some of us light on one worry after another like flies.
Being a
grownup and all, the bear idea doesn’t work as well, but a friend once told me
to give myself a time limit on worrying every day and that kind of helps. I
also figured out how to stop myself from obsessing in the middle of the night
(my favorite obsession time) by repeating a mantra over and
over – which can be any word that won’t get me obsessing again.
Is worry ever good?
I would have said no a few days ago but then my husband cut a tendon in half in
his finger while trying to open a package and I thought, well, maybe it’s a
good idea to worry now and then. Makes you a little more cautious when opening
packages.
It can also help
you prepare better for projects, because you start earlier than you would if
you’re not worried. I’ve never been
able to be much of a last-minute person (though sometimes I wish I was). But
the good side of prepping for stuff early means I have less stress later on.
Kids don’t need to
worry incessantly, but if you don’t learn to care about things like school
deadlines, you know how easy it can be to lose track of them. Maybe keeping
track isn’t exactly what you’d call worry, but it does seem to involve at least
some level of concern, if not anxiety.
How do you balance
worry about deadlines with staying away from overthinking or worrying too much?
Was Sam ever able to learn how to keep this balance when he grew up?
We can’t really
know, because Sam is a fictional character. But we can hope he did. And learn
to stop OVER worrying. Here’s some ideas I found that may help:
- 10 Steps for Parents and Kids to Tame the Worry Monster
- 6 Healthy Habits to Teach Kids Who Worry Too Much
- Helping Kids Handle Worry
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