If It's Right

What is it about an anniversary that's worth remembering? Tolstoy's comment comes to mind about every unhappy family being unhappy in it's own way--but every happy family being alike.

I don't know if that's true, but I think there is something about being happy with someone that may be what makes us all happy.

I couldn't be with my husband on our anniversary, which was on Monday of last week. I had to go to Wisconsin to work on a new musical--and though it was wonderful to have the time to do that with the composer and company--it was hard to be away. We both knew Monday wouldn't be a good day to celebrate anyway, since he would be working late and I'd work most of the day.

We celebrated last weekend, but there was so much more than a dinner and presents and cards that brought us here. (Card made me cry, though).

The couple in our musical is celebrating their anniversary, too, and as I've gotten to know them, I've come to realize all the little moments they have pretty much make up the kind of moments my husband and I have, too.

Well, yes of course, Virginia, you're the writer.

But what I mean is that all the little things we said, and did, and lived through, are what made us happy in the way other couples are when they're happy, too.

This year we sold our first house and bought a new one. And all the stress that happened before we wrestled that monster to the ground didn't hurt us--in fact I think it brought us closer. Because you can have the most perfect situation possible with no speed bumps in sight and if you aren't right together, it won't work.

But if you're able  connect as soon as you walk in the door and start talking, if kissing makes you shine 23 years after your wedding day and if he/she still makes you laugh not just once, but twenty times a day then I think no matter what the world throws at you, that marriage can still survive.

And probably nothing I said just now makes sense. But it's the end of a long week.

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